I think we have all been there one time or another and not really known what to do. How many times have we gone through the "will she, won't she" syndrome. Unlike in a normal scenario where the worst thing that could happen is that she rejects you; in a situation where you have started getting feelings for your friend who happens to be a girl, if the girl doesn't feel the same way about you, she will be embarrassed, shocked, surprised and worse not even want to be your friend any more. Therefore, you have to be extra careful when you wish to turn your friend into your Girl Friend.
So what happens if you take the bull by the horns and tell her bluntly that you have feeling for her and would like to be more than friends. She might most likely come out with the line "let's just be friends" Sadly, my friend that will never happen. Once those words are uttered, I'll bet you anything, she will start avoiding you and that will be the end of most probably a great friendship. So let's see how to turn a friendship into something more.
First of all, you have to change your attitude towards her. Don't be there for her every time she needs to unburden herself. At the moment, she thinks of you only as a crutch to hold on to when she's in trouble, or needs advice. Don't be that. Start reducing the number of times you meet and call her. When she calls and wants to meet you, make an excuse; say you are too busy or have to go somewhere else or something like that. That will start her thinking. She will be put out and worried. When you do meet her, be very casual when greeting her. Don't do it with your usual exuberance. She's bound to ask you if something is wrong or bothering you. Just say "No" and give her a gentle smile and look away. A good trick is to keep looking at her when she's not looking and to look away the moment she looks at you. After repeating this a couple of time, the next time she looks hold her with your eyes for at least 30 seconds and then look away. This works every time, believe me.
If the two of you have been really close as friend, she'll wonder what's going on. This is the time for you to pay a little more attention to other girls. Start hanging out with them instead of with this one particular girl. Make her think that other girls are also interested in you. This will be the real test. She might act as if she didn't care or start hanging around with other boys just to hurt you. Now you have to be careful you don't push her away from you completely.
Give her a call and invite her to a party or to the movies. She'll be surprised; but if she accepts your invitation, half your troubles are over. This is the time to be nice to her. Be tender and caring but don't go overboard. Complement her on her outfit, her hair or something. She might act off hand at first but come out and ask you straight away why you have been ignoring her. Give her a hint to start thinking. Tell her something like how difficult it is to hang around in a crowd and see other boys coming on to her or something to that effect and see how she reacts. By now you should know which way things are heading. If she responds in a positive way, just before the two of part, ask her if you can see her again to repeat the date. Her look and response will say it all.
Having been her friend for sometime, you will know right away whether your friend will be your future girl friend or not. As for her, maybe this is what she had been wanting all along, but just didn't know what to do about it.
